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              Worry! We as a society do this way too much and we seem to never change a thing when doing it. Worry is a wasted emotion but a needed one at the same time. Worry is what we should feel when threatened and is the precursor to “fight or flight”. The problem is that we have programmed our society and ourselves to worry about things we have no control over. Think of this, our reality and our perception of things around us are formed by our histories and our thoughts our beliefs and our experiences. Worry about things beyond our control lead to negativity within ourselves and reaches those that we are connected to. Where am I going with this you ask? Well because it matters. It matters because:

  1. Most of what we worry about is not really based on any fact but our perception of it. We see the negative outcome before we see the positive. We are programmed like that, to always think of the worst outcome first.
  2. The more we think of the negative outcome and the more we worry about it the more it will become implanted within you and your mind as a reality when it is not.

Most worry is based on fear. If you think back in your own life you have probably have spent more time in worry and the negative outcomes in situations based on that worry than you have on the positive outcome that is just as possible.

I think that we all do this because like I said before, it is natural and easier for us to focus on the negative and plan for it. That is really a terrible thing if you think about it.

We are so fixed on our negative thought patterns because we believe that there are limited outcomes to any given situation. This is only in our minds and is false. Each thought we have is in essence, energy. This energy is sent out into the world and touches all aspects of our lives and all of those to whom we are connected. Did you know that all emotions and the process of thought can be recorded and validated?  This is done through the science of quantum physics. These thoughts, negative or positive and in response to worry actually form your reality. For example you hear a commotion in another room, people yelling and screaming. You don’t go investigate so you start to put your own mental pictures to what you hear. You see fighting and someone getting hurt. You think the worst based on what you only hear when in reality, if you were to walk out you would find your friends or family doing nothing but laughing and screaming out of happiness while playing a game or rough housing around. This happens so often. So many arguments and false beliefs are nothing but the creation of your own imagination.

The more you worry and the more you focus on the negative outcome you will bring the outcome to you that you have focused on. When it happens you validate this way of thinking by saying, “I knew it! This is why I always worry!” All you have done is to solidify this way of thinking and to justify your continuance of it.

Yes worry is normal and is part of who we are. The key again is to be aware of it and of your response to it. Address it and acknowledge it but do not focus on it. Like all emotions, worry is a temporary state and response to a situation, nothing more and nothing less. You will notice that when you’re aware and you’re not feeding this worry things will usually work out in the end and for the best. Focus on the positive outcomes.

Worrying has probably become a habit for you. Again, we always seem to gravitate towards the negative as you probably remember all of the times that you have worried about something that ended up just the way you were imagining. Do you think that maybe you may have helped come to that end? Forget about the past. It is just that and the past. You already know what is there, so look towards the future with an open mind and heart. Acknowledge worry and address it but let it go and focus on the positive outcomes. Try this to begin thinking and responding differently:

  1. Make a note about all of the things that you are worried about right this second. Things like bills, family, kids, school, relationships and anything you can think of. You may find that you end up with a pretty large list.
  2. Now take this list you have made and fold it up. Stick it somewhere with a date on it to review it again in about 6 weeks.
  3. When the 6 weeks are up go get the list and read it back. How many of the items on your list ended up working out just fine? You may also notice that you had forgotten about half of them during the 6 weeks. By doing this you have just show yourself how things will mostly work out in a positive way in the end and you will also notice that you really did not need to worry in the first place. It was and is always up to you.

So quit worrying and make your life a bit more comfortable. Respond to all things and events in your life in a way that is beneficial to you and to those around you. Less worry can and will equal more life.