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“To blessed to be depressed!” 

depression_art_image_1This has to be one of the most arrogant, selfish, self-centered and hurtful quotes that I hear many Christians repeat and we have heard and seen this on so many posts and heard it on TV since the death of Robin Williams. 

If you follow me at all, you know that I am always writing on ways to deal with life, how to respond to situations, how to become and stay positive, plus a multitude of other subjects. However, I would never condemn anyone or blame anyone for being depressed and if they felt that at a specific moment in their life it was time to end it, it was their choice at that moment with the mind that they had at that moment. 

People, every day we go about our lives and most of us have great ones 99% of the time. Many of us are successful while some of us are not but we seem to stick our heads in the sand with something like this happens and then we sit back and point fingers. 

Depression is a powerful disease and every single one of us experiences it at some point. If you say you never have, excuse me but you are full of it! We all experience phases of it and some more than others. However, there are millions of people that battle major depression daily and most of their lives as Robin Williams did. 

Major depression is a mood state that goes well beyond temporarily feeling sad or blue. A serious medical illness affects one’s thoughts, feelings, behavior, mood and physical health. Depression is a life-long condition in which periods of wellness alternate with recurrences of illness. 

Major depression is also known as clinical depression, major depressive illness, major affective disorder and unipolar mood disorder. It involves some combination of the following symptoms: depressed mood (sadness), poor concentration, insomnia, fatigue, appetite disturbances, excessive guilt and thoughts of suicide. Left untreated, depression can lead to serious impairment in daily functioning and even suicide, which is the 10th leading cause of death in the U.S. 

I have experienced major depression within myself and have taken medication for it as well as my mother and other members of my family. I witnessed the terror that it unleashes within a person with cut wrists and an attempted shot to the head that thankfully missed by my mother and birth father. I have had those thoughts myself especially after my time in the Marine Corps and thankfully never acted upon those thoughts. 

As a firefighter and Police Officer, I saw the aftermath that is left behind when they are successful.  Yes, family is left behind and hearts are broken and many questions are left unanswered but do you know what the most comment I would get from family? “At least they are not suffering anymore.” 

Unless you live with it individually or with a family member, you never understand what it can do. Yes, it is treatable and most of the time if it is kept in check with therapy, medications and other option’s available most individuals with clinical depression live normal lives.   

However, it is during the alone times in the quite that it strikes and if there is no one around to talk to, to yell at, to cry to, to talk to or even just to stare at it can force you to believe that it is all over and you take your life. 

I ask each of you to remember your moments in the darkness. I want you to then magnify that to infinity and then know what Robin Williams was experiencing as well as thousands of others. Yes, it is sad. Yes, it hurts those left behind. Yes, it is hard to understand. However, it is a part of our lives and if we educate rather that postulate we can help others with this disease.